Short man desperate for a good wife

Dear Pastor,

I am a young guy. I was looking around for a wife but everyone I met had their boyfriends before.

My sister introduced me to one of her friends and we started to date, but the first thing she wanted from me was money to purchase a car. When I told my sister what she wanted, my sister told me that if I could not handle it, I should stop dating her.

I found out also that she was seeing a police officer. I told her that she would have to make up her mind whether to go with me or the police officer. She wanted to keep both of us, so, I stopped seeing her.

By that time she told me that she believed that I got her pregnant, but I didn't. She just wanted money out of me.

I met another girl and this time it was at my church. I became very close to her but her parents didn't like me. They said I was only a security guard. The girl wants us to have a relationship, but I don't know what to do because whenever her parents see her talking to me they make a big fuss.

I am getting older now. I am 33 and a half years old and I am still living at home with my parents. To be honest, every time I see my brothers with their women and children, I get jealous. However, I find it difficult to trust women.

I am short, and in addition to this girl's parents telling her that I don't make enough money, they say she should not go with such a short man. I am not well educated, but I can read. I would really like to find a good wife, so please give me your advice.

H,

Dear H,

I would suggest that you take this matter to your pastor. Go and discuss this struggle you're having with him. He might be able to introduce you to someone he believes is compatible.

I would like you to know that it is not every girl who says that she loves you that you should be eager to consider her as a future partner.

Please do not be annoyed with the parents of the girl at your church. They have the right to give her advice, but they do not have a right to choose for her. Parents want the best for their children, but ultimately the final decision has to be made by their children. So, please do not hold anything against this girl's parents.

Don't be in a hurry to find a wife. You are still young so look around; one will come your way.

Pastor