My ex harassing my new girlfriend

Dear Pastor,

I am a 27-year-old man and I have two children. My son is three and my daughter is one.

I was hoping to get married to my son's mother, but something happened that caused me to change my mind. One of my brothers came to my house to spend a weekend and my child's mother accused him of stealing money. I asked her how she could be so sure that he took the money. She said the money was in her bag and after he left, she couldn't find the money. I have known my brother to be an honest person, so I called him and asked him whether he took money from my child's mother. He was shocked and expressed how disappointed he was that I thought that he would steal from my girlfriend.

She kept saying that she was sure that he stole her money, so I told her that I would give her back the $6,000 she said he stole. She said she would not want him back at the house, so I asked her how that would work, because if we were to get married, I would like to know that members of my family can visit. She called my brother a thief. Then she said that if the others were to visit, they might steal from her also, so they should stay where they are. I heard her telling people on the phone how my brother stole her money and I was upset. One thing led to another and I realised that we wouldn't make it, so we broke up.

I got involved with another girl, so now I have two children. To be truthful, this new girl is not a very quiet person. My son's mother called and my girlfriend answered the phone. My son's mother did not greet her well and my girlfriend cursed her. They exchanged hot words to each other, so I called my son's mother and told her not to harass my girlfriend. She cursed me and told me that she has a new man in her life, so all she wants from me is money to support my child. I have never failed to support my son. I just want this girl to leave my new girlfriend alone. I told her that I will do the calling every week to check on my son. But she continues to call to harass my new girlfriend. A couple of times when she called, my girlfriend hanged up the phone on her and she called back and used expletives and told her about her private parts. So I am glad that I did not marry this woman. She is definitely no good.

E.B.

Dear E.B.,

I am glad that you ended the intimate relationship with your son's mother, who accused your brother of stealing her money.

But she went further to say that she doesn't want any member of your family visiting your house; that was going too far. Evidently she believed that no one in your family should be trusted, and even if she believes that, she should not have said it to you. When you gave the money to her, you were only trying to make peace, but she admitted that as guilt on your brother's part. She is warmonger.

I hope that this woman with whom you have a daughter would take care of you and respect you, and you would do the same to her. She should not get into arguments with your son's mother but there will be occasions for her to call the house. Let your daughter's mother know that she is under no obligation to say anything to her whenever she calls, except of course to say whether you are at home or not. Take good care of yourself, my brother, and let me hear from you again.

Pastor